cake & drinks reception versus a dessert buffet?
cake & drinks reception versus a dessert buffet?
i have been swaying between the two for a while now, well i wasn’t sure if i was having an AM wedding or a PM wedding, i left that up to him to decide, so he told me yesterday that a 10 AM wedding is fine with him, so we are having a morning wedding
his parents are having a huge breakfast (ham, bacon, pancakes, french toast, gravy, egg bar, etc) at their house at 8:30am so no one should be hungry at the 10 am wedding. so now i am undecided on just cake & drinks or if we should do a dessert buffet
his cousin got married today she had a buffet dinner plus a candy buffet & my FMIL & my FH’s aunt both made several trips to both buffets, in addition to taking plates home for other people who didn’t come to the wedding, they weren’t the only ones either, there were several in his family that i am inviting to our wedding
now not to sound rude but i’m not spending a fortune to feed people i don’t invite, so i don’t know how to avoid this, i mean it’s rude to have a sign that says 2 trips only, or for wedding guests only but his mom took home 4 plates piled high of food, (they had a serve yourself thing going on) & his aunt took home 2 extra plates, they both boxed up 5 favors full of candy to take home, i know it makes me sound cheap but i can’t afford to feed “mabel at her church” whom i’ve never met, nor “lunch the next day for my whole family”so i don’t have to cook
his cousin the bride, she told me that i was smart only doing a cake & punch reception, they ended up running out of food today, which is strange since she only had 134 guests out of her 168 she thought (& had food for) were coming, so she shouldn’t have ran out of food at all, especially not before 10 guests even got to eat anything,
so my question is should i just do cake & a drink station (coffee, tea, water, soda, juice) or do a dessert buffet? it is at 10 am, they are having a big breakfast
also how do you avoid the extra food leaving for people who aren’t invited or you don’t know, i don’t care if they take the extra food left over (if there is any) so it doesn’t go to waste, but how do i tell people to wait till everyone has had a chance to get food before they take extra? thank you
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what a charmed life you have……get a real one
I think you should do this:
have a table with a fruit salad, pieces of cake and tea &coffee, with plates/bowls, cutlery, cups etc. at the side.
If you can, set the room up with separate tables, name tags so then you can allocate one table at a time to go get food, so you don’t have too many people at once, or have people getting seconds before others. That way you can get certain people having food before others. If everyone just milling around then it’ll be a bit hard
Instead of doing a straight-up cake and drinks thing, have some finger foods, like fruit and veggie trays or maybe some finger sandwiches.
If your guests aren’t courtesy enough to wait for the others to be served before they get extra, then that’s another problem. You really can’t plan for people being rude!
wow rude people, i’ve see that at weddings before too, it’s sad really,
what if you like have them at tables with name tags and each seat has a plate, silverware & a can of soda & a bottle of water, then the kids get juice & water, you don’t want kids drinking soda at a wedding, not a good idea, then you don’t put out any drinks, they get a bottle of water & a can of pop or a bottle of pop that’s it, maybe do bottles so they don’t get spilled as easily, do the 8 oz bottles though, not the big 20 oz,
as for the taking extra food, see that sucks, no i’d say just cake, everyone gets a pc, one pc that’s it
Just the cake. Have someone cut it up in pieces after the ceremony of you two feeding each other. Take off the top layer to save, of course. Then cut it up and put it on separate little disposable plates. When it runs out – it runs out. If ppl are taking several pieces on the first trip, you can later say (in their earshot) “Oh, I’m sorry you didn’t get a piece of cake Mabel, the caterer told me the cake should feed 250 ppl !!! I just don’t know – maybe they cut the pieces too large?”
It won’t be as if you were feeding them a meal and some go without. It’s just a piece of cake. And it is mostly ceremonial, anyway.