cake & drinks reception versus a dessert buffet? opinions please?
cake & drinks reception versus a dessert buffet? opinions please?
i have been swaying between the two for a while now, well i wasn’t sure if i was having an AM wedding or a PM wedding, i left that up to him to decide, so he told me yesterday that a 10 AM wedding is fine with him, so we are having a morning wedding
his parents are having a huge breakfast (ham, bacon, pancakes, french toast, gravy, egg bar, etc) at their house at 8:30am so no one should be hungry at the 10 am wedding. so now i am undecided on just cake & drinks or if we should do a dessert buffet
his cousin got married today she had a buffet dinner plus a candy buffet & my FMIL & my FH’s aunt both made several trips to both buffets, in addition to taking plates home for other people who didn’t come to the wedding, they weren’t the only ones either, there were several in his family that i am inviting to our wedding
now not to sound rude but i’m not spending a fortune to feed people i don’t invite, so i don’t know how to avoid this, i mean it’s rude to have a sign that says 2 trips only, or for wedding guests only but his mom took home 4 plates piled high of food, (they had a serve yourself thing going on) & his aunt took home 2 extra plates, they both boxed up 5 favors full of candy to take home, i know it makes me sound cheap but i can’t afford to feed “mabel at her church” whom i’ve never met, nor “lunch the next day for my whole family”so i don’t have to cook
his cousin the bride, she told me that i was smart only doing a cake & punch reception, they ended up running out of food today, which is strange since she only had 134 guests out of her 168 she thought (& had food for) were coming, so she shouldn’t have ran out of food at all, especially not before 10 guests even got to eat anything,
so my question is should i just do cake & a drink station (coffee, tea, water, soda, juice) or do a dessert buffet? it is at 10 am, they are having a big breakfast
also how do you avoid the extra food leaving for people who aren’t invited or you don’t know, i don’t care if they take the extra food left over (if there is any) so it doesn’t go to waste, but how do i tell people to wait till everyone has had a chance to get food before they take extra? thank you
doodlestuff thank you, i never even thought about that, i was going to serve in cans & bottles, thank you now i’ll make sure it’s in cups so there is no tempting them
miss a. slow down first of all only wedding guests are going to the breakfast at his family’s house,
but at his cousin’s wedding today several members of his family took plates full of food to their cars to take home to people they go to church with, or for them for the next day so they don’t have to cook,
secondly no alcohol, i said drink station, coffee, tea, soda, water, juice, i don’t drink so there will be no alcohol at all
yes i’m not joining the family for breakfast, we will be getting ready for the wedding instead
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