Dummy cake dilemma…?
Dummy cake dilemma…?
I’m getting married this year (Dec. 4th) my MOH and her mother, as well as my mother are, helping me plan this event. The MOH’s mother bought me the wedding cake stand I wanted but all along I have planned to use a “dummy” cake decorated with fondant, flowers, the whole works and just having a real piece of cake slipped in just for the cake cutting ceremony, but I we would have sheet cakes (since they are cheaper) for the guests to eat. I want to have a big elaborate cake, which we have already priced out at several bakeries the average being around 600 dollars and most wouldn’t even deliver to the reception site seeing as how it was at night, in the mountains, and during the winter, so the way I see it is I’d rather have a fake cake looking the way I want it to look then have a real cake that I don’t like because it’s in my price range.
My dilemma is, my MOH’s mother was saying that I was practically ungrateful for the cake stand that she went out of her way to purchase for me because I don’t want to spend the money on a real cake (I’d rather spend my money where I feel it is more important i.e. photography and videography) and of course my MOH told me what her mother said which makes me feel offended. I didn’t ask for her to buy me the cake stand, I planned on paying for it myself just not at this particular time.
How do I deal with this and should I say something or shut up and grin. I’m ready to say that I’m making myself the “real” wedding cake, but that would be a lie. Help!
Thank you <3
***EDIT*** Sorry I forgot to mention that I would still use the cake stand for the dummy cake, but they feel I should grace it with a real cake.
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Your maid of honor should have kept quiet about this. The best thing to do is act like you don’t even know there is an issue with the cake stand. You did not ask her to purchase it, and you did not know that you would have to change your plans due to cost. If I were you I would find a way to use the cake stand somehow in a sincere expression of gratitude so as not to hurt this lady’s feelings.
Can you use the cake stand with your dummy cake?
Or maybe have a cake at your bridal shower and use the stand there. Somewhere where you moh mum will see you getting use of it.
If you use the cake stand for the dummy cake, what’s the problem? I think your idea of a dummy cake makes perfect sense, under the circumstances. You could buy a 600 wedding cake, get a friend to deliver it and have a mess in the parking lot instead. Just shut up and grin, as you suggested!
I sort of feel like dummy cakes are a little silly. Does it really matter that much what the cake looks like? Is it that important to impress others that you’re willing to have a fake cake? It just seems like a really dumb (no pun intended) idea.
I would suggest getting a smaller, but still pretty, real cake, and lots of sheet cake. We got enough “pretty” cake to feed 50 people, and enough sheet cake to feed the rest, and it was beautiful.