How to plan a lesbian wedding?

Dec 28 2011

How to plan a lesbian wedding?

Hello,
Me and my fiance are getting married she just proposed to me and it was amazing. Anyway i actually have a few questions.
My first question is about the rings. Can we both have an engagement ring and when we get married just get simple gold bands for out wedding ring?

2nd Q we live in ohio and would like to get married here but know that its prob impossible is there any sort of ceremony we can have here if not which states allow same sex marriage?

3rd Q What do we both wear I am a Girl girl so of course I would love to wear a white wedding dress and she I believe would also like to wear a dress we were thinking that I could wear the white dress and she could wear the black one. Would that be ok to do that?

4th Q I know there are going to be a lot of steps we need to take so if anyone could give me the steps and some tips that would be amazing

Thank you so much ( and please no judging) : )

source: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20090217164926AALJD6m

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7 responses so far

  1. Remember the days when people planned their own weddings?

  2. uhhhhhh….i live in ohio…and i don’t think they allow same sex marriage..do they?

  3. 1. Yes, you can both have engagement rings AND wedding bands if you want.

    2. You can have a ceremony but it won’t be a legal marriage there. Try Massachusetts.

    3. You can wear what ever you want–but a black wedding dress is bad taste (sounds too good-vs-evil to me). You can both wear white wedding dresses, that would be beautiful. Or one could wear the dress, and one could wear a tux. Or you could both wear tuxes. Or you could wear jeans and sweatshirts. It’s completely up to you. There are classic styles for weddings, but nothing that says you HAVE to follow them.

    4. The steps are listed on lots of wedding sites.

    Good luck!

  4. first of all the black dress is such a good idea second of all you can do the ring thing

  5. †♥Manda♥†

    wouldnt recommend it.

  6. Apocalypse Suite

    same way you plan a straight wedding, just two brides!
    =]

    2nd- i really have no clue, but I’m sure you two could figure something out.

    3rd- that sounds like a good idea, yes.

    I’m sorry I’m only 15 but I hope I helped a bit at least!!

  7. Congratulations. My partner and I have been married 2 years, so I may have answers for you.

    First, you can definitely do anything you want with regard to the rings. I got my partner a promise ring, then a white gold wedding band with diamonds. My wedding band is plain palladium, which looks like white gold but holds up better. We picked them out together, but had them engraved separately for a bit of a surprise.

    Second, you’re correct that you can’t get *legally* married in Ohio. We had a ceremony at a gay-friendly local church. You’ll just need to find an officiant that is ok with performing a ‘commitment ceremony’ or ‘holy union’ for a same-sex couple.

    For your third question: a white dress and a black dress would look fine together, especially if they were of a similar cut. You could also do dresses in a light and a dark shade of the same color. Whatever makes both of you happy is fine. We had a very simple cermony, and neither of us wore a dress. She wore a white pants suit, I wore a black one.

    Don’t feel like you have to ‘follow the rules’ with your cermony. Its already going to be non-traditional, so feel free to make it whatever you want it to be. If you want some timelines, checklists, and the like, try one of the mainstream wedding sites for help. Theknot.com and brides.com are the two I can think of right off. They’ll have tons of information for you.

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