If you are acustomed to do so, can you wear a really lavish, expensive dress to a wedding? Gucci or dior?
If you are acustomed to do so, can you wear a really lavish, expensive dress to a wedding? Gucci or dior?
My sister dresses in very expensive clothing. We have a wedding to go to. Its a family affair, but they are not as well off as my family is. My dad and I are wearing suits, which no one will really pay attention to because they’re just suits, but when it comes to women, the dress is everything. I told my sister she should tone down the dress to something simple. She said she wouldn’t change the way she dresses for anyone and would not start buying cheaper, less sheek clothing just because it would outshine anyone. Though she probably won’t wear a gown, she’ll probably be wearing an expensive designer dress that will definately make her the “bell of the ball”. She is extremely beautiful and my cousin, the one that is getting married, and her have always been rivals. I think its wrong and my sis should just wear something simple from saks or neiman’s, but not runway. what a mess.
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Your sister is right. Above all things know thyself.
Tell your sister to stay home. It doesn’t seem like she is there to celebrate your cousin’s marriage.
As long as the dress isn’t a long white gown she can wear what she wants
While I do agree with your sister somewhat, the bride should never be outdone and it’s wrong to try and do so. I’m sure your sister is very beautiful and will shine in anything she wears. Ask her to put the shoe on the other foot. I’m sure as a bride she wouldn’t want anyone stealing the lime light from her.
I wonder a little bit how your sister could feel comfortable in such a dress under these circumstances… I guess there are no rules cast in stone but it does not sound like a wise or considerate decision. Your sister might be admired there – but she will not be liked or loved. A wedding should not be the stage for female competition. If she understands this, great. If not – what to do!
If the family is not that well off to begin with it is VERY unlikely that they will be able to identify your sisters designer. SHe is a guest and should wear something she is comfortable wearing as long as the color and style are befitting the occassion. But, I would bet she is perfectly aware of what she should or should not wear.
Clearly your sister relies on her label and not her own self to look good. Remind her that nobody likes a showoff.
I have been in a very similar situation. I wore a Dior dress to my sisters wedding and everything was a mess after that. My husband and I are very well off and my sister and her new husband are not. Although my dress was in a very neutral color … I got a lot of attention and as my sister said, “stole her thunder.” She will hardly speak to me now. At the time I was much like your sister … no one was going to change the way that I normally dress but I regret that now as my relationship with my sister is not what it once was. I’d tell your sis to forego her pride for ONE day and let her cousin shine for the sake of the relationship.
Don’t wear Gucci or Dior to the wedding of your rival! Tell your sis that she will never, ever make it up with her cousin if she does. Never outshine the bride. Save the expensive dress for your own special day, sis, and wear a simpler dress for your cousin’s wedding.
She should dress similar to what the family of the bride can afford an should never out shine the bride its her day to feel special
The question is does your sister want to risk increasing the rivalry between her & her cousin.
At a wedding it is a day to celebrate the bride & groom. If your sister doesn’t want to dress down then perhaps she should offer to help the bride dress up… seems your sister has the money for it.
Of course, one way for your cousin to shut down your sister’s extravange would be to include her in the bridal party.
If you sister does go dressed to the nine’s you might find that more than she will be left off of the future invitations to your relative’s events.
Hopefully things will work out well.
Well, the key phrase here is: “bell of the ball”. If this is what the dress would make her then she’s probably there for the wrong selfish, snobby reasons. If she wants to be perceived like that then go for it, but if you ask me there’s nothing worse then purposely stealing a bride’s spotlight. Even though there are a lot of designer dresses and suits that look plain enough, you’ve indicated that’s not really the case here.
Why in the world would you try to control what anyone else wears? Worry about your own appearance and leave her alone. I feel that you are trying to control things that you shouldn’t. Allow her to be herself and be comfortable with who she is. If everyone already expects that of her… well then she is being true to form.. she sounds like somebody I would like LOL
Would this be wrong? Yes. Is it going to stop her? Most likely not.
On one hand, she always dresses this way so asking her to not, is in a way asking her to not be herself. My husband shaves his head because he is going bald and would rather just have it all gone then have the “halo” effect with his hair. His grandparents asked him to grow it back for his brother’s wedding because they felt it would be an embarrassment to the family. He refused to do so because that is part of who he is. It was wrong to ask him to change. His brother asked him to be in the wedding knowing that he has a shaved head.
In your case, your cousin asked your sister to the wedding, well aware of how she dresses. Asking her change that is wrong of you. By the same token, though, if she is aware that it makes your cousin feel uncomfortable then she should, herself, considering dressing down a bit. In my husbands case, his brother was not uncomfortable with his hair “style” so it wasn’t that type of an issue.
This is really something that is up to your sister and not for you to decide. If she chooses to do so, and it offends your cousin, it is her wedding, she can ask her to leave. Hope this helps.
Sorry, but I have to say your sister is being very selfish. While she can wear a very nice designer outfit, her desire to “outshine” the bride is, to say the least, very impolite of her.
The bride is ALWAYS the “star” of her own wedding. ALL the guests should dress AND behave accordingly. If they do not, they are crudely insensitive and lacking in refinement or good taste… which seems to be what your sister wants to BOAST about HERSELF as being when she wears such clothing.
Frankly, some of the “runway” couture is simply UGLY. If she wants to wear something like that… GO AHEAD, it would serve her right for her boorish behavior and attitude.
I think you have done the responsible thing by making her aware that she may be over-dressing for your cousin’s wedding. Interestingly enough, I have been to a few weddings where one or two women “over-dressed” for the event, and they inevitably ended up being the brunt of ill will from the entire bridal party, not to mention the family and friends of the bride. People were not complimenting them on the dress, they were sniping at them behind their back. (I am not suggesting that this was appropriate behavior, only pointing out what was happening.)
That being said, though, it IS possible for her to wear Dior to a wedding and not steal the bride’s thunder. A simple but elegant dress would allow her to wear a favorite designer without undermining her cousin. It is quite common for women to admire the dresses that other women wear to weddings, and simple compliments on a lovely dress should not have the power to steal the spotlight from the bride. This would be a great route for your sister to take to avoid continuing her rivalry at entirely the wrong time. It would also ensure that she would probably get sincere compliments, rather than sincere dislike or anger.
If your sister is intending to wear something from a designer’s haute coutour line, however, I am guessing that she either hasn’t considered the effect that her actions would have on everyone else there, or that she doesn’t care. If the former, recruiting your parents to point it out might help. If the latter, there is nothing whatsoever that you can do, other than attempt to steer her clear of the bride as much as possible. An accidental, but quite extensive, wine-spillage early on at the reception might also help with this. (Not that I’m suggesting that you ruin your sister’s fabulously expensive dress, but…) You may also want to point out that she is almost definitely going to feel out of place and entirely uncomfortable because those dresses are NOT truly meant to be worn by normal humans, much less to anything short of a royal wedding!
Last, but not least, as a concerned and caring brother, you could point out that true fashion is a matter of taste and sensitivity to the atmosphere of an event, and showing up in something flashy or overly eye-catching to someone else’s wedding shows a definite lack of taste and sensitivity. If this is a society wedding, she is quite likely to find herself shunned because she was crass enough to outshine a bride.
It is also quite possible that your sister might surprise you and decide to wear something completely appropriate.