My gay friends are becoming a nuisance to my gay wedding planning -help!!!?
My gay friends are becoming a nuisance to my gay wedding planning -help!!!?
My lovely fiance and I are getting gay married on April 5th. We are paying for the entire shebang ourselves. Our wedding is very small.
Our gay friends came out of the woodwork and literally begged (hello, we haven’t seen you in years, honey!) to be attendants. Yet, not one of our gay buds has been helpful.
When we asked about venues for bachelorette parties they asked questions such as: “can it be somewhere 18 yr olds can go cause my new gf who you’ve never met is underage.”
When we asked that our attendants wear gray or black one queen insisted on wearing purple!
When one crafty dyke saw my amazing handmade veil, she went out and made one in ruby red because as she said: “when else will I have an opportunity to wear a veil other than your wedding?”
the list goes on.
I want to tell my gay buds: “Do you not get that this is a WEDDING?! It is about the union of my fiance and myself. Its our special day, not theirs.
What do y’all think? Has anyone else experienced this?
source: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20080317125106AAbpUuq
Well, be firm but nice and don’t back down. Try to politely let them know that if they continue to be so agrivating that they won’t be invited. You’re right it’s a wedding not pride festival. Congrats to you and yours I’m very jealous wish I could marry my girl.
Okay, first of all if I remember correctly, IT’S YOUR WEDDING!! Okay dears, take charge and keep the reigns. Everyone and their brother (and looks like it in your case) is going to have an opinion. This is your time, you and your partner need to make the decisions. You can take your “friends” ideas if you want to use them but the ultimate decisions are yours. If your “friends” object, and they will, they don’t have to like it (or even attend) Express your appreciation to the many thoughts and well wishes, but do what you want. This is your wedding and these memories are the ones you want to look back at with smiles. You summed it up yourself in your next to last paragraph, “it our special day, not theirs.” Take that and run with it and be very happy with your own celebration.
Ugh I cant stand people who try and make everything about them, really sorry to say but thats so typical of gay guys. I’m gay myself so don”t flame!! Politely tell them how you want things to be, if they arnt happy then tough f***ing doo da. its your big day like you said.