Perfect wedding date OR Sister’s holiday?
Perfect wedding date OR Sister’s holiday?
We’ve found the perfect venue for our Wedding and the perfect date over Christmas (27th).
This is the only venue in the area open over Christmas, and we have our hearts set on the Christmas wedding now. We’ve been through the dates with the venue and the whole thing sounds amazing. And the other days over Christmas are already booked, except Boxing day(26th).
(But Boxing day suits even less people, and we don’t think it’s fair as a lot of people travel and want to be with their own families that day).
The problem now is that my sister has her holiday planned- and is to leave the same day as we want our wedding. It”s a big holiday that she said she had booked since March.
We haven’t left the deposit with the venue yet.
I rang the travel agents of my sisters holiday to see how hard or expensive it is to change the date and it’s not too bad- I would shell out for the difference myself. The next flight is 3 days after her original.
The problem is that she doesn’t want to change her holiday now because she says she has had it booked so long and she says her itinerary is planned, and things are all booked. She said it’s not easy to get holidays from her job- she said she had to fight for her holidays with her bosses.
She is my older sister and is always very stubborn (and to be honest, a bit mean for my whole life), but she’s still my sister.
I feel like I’m in a hard place now, because she’s had her holiday booked since March but I only got engaged in July.
But now I can’t imagine anything other than my Christmas wedding!
Errrrr. What should I do?
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Her flight is at mid-day. There’s no way I can have a morning wedding- It’s just not done where I’m from, and I’d never do it.
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cant you arrange to have an early wedding ceremony so she can be there for that then she can always hot foot it to the airport str8 after?
your sister has to be included because as u said shes ur sister, however much S**T she has given you thru your childhood lol
its a hard one! the only other option would be to bite the bullet hand have your wedding day on the day you want, you could always celebrate with her on her return if she is unable to make it to any of the ceremony
I would see if I could maybe schedule the time for a bit earlier. But it is your wedding, your dream day, and she does have a few months to work everything that she has booked. If you do change just for her you may resent her for a long time. She has got to figure out that not everything is about her. good luck
Your sister isn’t being stubborn — she’s had her holiday booked for months and you’ve only just started planning your wedding. It isn’t preposterous for her to have assumed that you wouldn’t schedule your wedding when she’ll be out of town.
If you’re set on a Christmas wedding, save it until Christmas of 2010. It’s getting pretty late to start planning a wedding for this Christmas anyway.
It is your day, not hers
If she wants to be there, she will be
Offering to pay the change fees is very generous of you
Don’t sweat it and enjoy your day on the day of your choice
You hit the nail on the head….sister is stubborn. You went over
and above to see if the arrangements can be changed and willing
to pay for them. Live has changes, she is on the ME-ME stage of
her life. She is the same type of person who is upset if someone
dies and she has to change plans.
First off, this sounds like she is one of many sister or siblings.
So you change the date, and another sibling has plans. Change
that date and his sibling is out of town, etc. You can not worry
about this, especially when you have an option for her arrangements
and this is not a MUST be commitment.
Plan the day, say nothing more about this to her, you did
all you can. She will whine and carry on with family but less
face it her past personality shows the try her and they too will
see this. I bet she will rearrange her arrangements or she simple
will miss out (her loss).
You may want to suggest to her that you and your future husband
will purchase the vacation from her for your honeymoon.
Book it now, send out “Save the Date”, get planning
(I am using the site below it is free they can help you out
with the free online Wedding Planner, I rely on them (too much),
and before the end of the year you are the new MRS.
Best Wishes.
You said you have only been engaged since this past July?
And your sister has had theses Holiday plans since March and has made all of the arrangements for her trip.. This is so simple, You wait until next December to get married!
Most couples plan a year in advance for their wedding. What is the rush? and this will give you more time to plan and more money.
I think you are being selfish, and very inconsiderate to your sister.
Now who is being mean? Or go ahead with your plans, But if I were your sister I wouldn’t change my plans. Being that you haven’t signed any papers what is wrong with a January wedding? It is still winter you can still use Christmas colors and theme, And I’m sure you weren’t going to have Merry Christmas written on anything, because it is after the Holiday, anyway.
You already knew your sister had set plans and scheduled it when you did? And who is being the stubborn one?
She made these holiday plans before you even got engaged, you dont have the right to ask her to change her plans. Vacations are alot more than the flight, she may not be able to change tours, hotel, festivals, etc. If you’re stuck on Christmas you have two options, have it next year (which makes more sense) or prepare for your sister to be absent, its selfish of you to assume people can rearrange their lives just because you’re stuck on a date. Another option is to do it in January to keep the winter theme.